So, I am headed home for Thanksgiving tomorrow and that has got me thinking about my brother. He was diagnosed with LADA about 5 years ago and he’s 27 now. I haven’t seen him since I got my act together, but I have a sneaking suspicion he may have also been struggling last I saw him. We were together for almost a full weekend and I never once saw him test his BG or pull out an insulin pen. It’s possible that he was sneaking off to the bathroom for insulin but I’m not sure.
He’s had social anxiety for a long time, and I feel like he may feel embarrassed doing diabetic stuff openly. Even, I guess, if it’s just with my family, who are obviously not phased by diabetic stuff. I can relate to this on some level, there was a while a few years ago where I felt very awkward testing my BG in front of people, particularly in front of strangers.
I’m interested in trying to have a dialogue with him about this, but I have a few holdups. For one, we’re not that close and we’ve never been that close. For two, thinking about myself when I really didn’t care about diabetes management, I don’t think I would have wanted to talk about it with someone. But, I am also kind of making an assumption there, that he’s struggling… I just see habits I have when I don’t care, so I am assuming he is behaving that way for the same reason. If it was really just social anxiety and he’s hiding everything he does, I would love to try to encourage him to not care what others think but I can’t think of a way I would attempt that that he would receive well.
Finally, I wanted to maybe try to encourage him to get the Freestyle Libre and offer him my MiaoMiao since I’m not using it anymore. To my knowledge he has no CGM and it’s mostly because his insurance kinda sucks, so it would be the more affordable CGM option for him. Heck, I can even give him my Libre Reader so he doesn’t have to spend $60 on that. He’s quite techy so I don’t think xDrip+ or Nightscout would be too tough for him, he might even like setting those up. I guess I want advice on how to frame this recommendation, like how would you try to sell someone on CGM who has never used one before? I think his biggest holdup is going to be other people seeing it, which is honestly kind of problematic for the Libre+MiaoMiao’s recommended back of the arm location… but I’m just kind of hoping the “look at your phone for BG readings” coolness-factor will win out I guess?
I’m not sure I’m actually gonna see him this weekend since he doesn’t love Thanksgiving but I’m pretty sure I’ll see him sometime this holiday season, so please give me your advice. Am I just being a busybody? Should I just talk about the CGM stuff and leave the rest alone?