My 9 yr old son was diagnosed on August 28, 2017 at the age of 8 (first day of school mind you). We missed the first week of school as he and I began this new journey in his life. Before he returned, I reached out to the principal, who in turn contacted the school nurse, his teacher, and two of the most wonderful ladies I know (Liz, a reading specialist and Miss D, the guidance counselor). His team are wonderful. Liz and Miss D volunteered 2yrs before when they had two kids (one with T1D and the other T2D) entered the school. They out of all of the teachers volunteered for training and became CDEs. So, when my son was diagnosed they were there ready to go. We discussed the Diabetes Management Plan (which spells out how to manage lows/highs, when to call the parents, etc.) From day one, my son has a morning snack which started out at 9:30 am due to his lows around that time, so at that time his BS was checked B4 the snack and we covered both BS/snack,
but we pushed back snack 30mins to 10:00 am, because we wanted to make sure his BS was being checked Q3 hours (every 3 hours) then we only cover his snack because we have found that he drops really b4 lunch. His team alternates who will cover lunch and snack. So during the snack and lunch times he would go to their office or classroom and check his BS,have his snack, and bolus all under supervision. Because he is a car rider and is picked up by my father-in-law, his BS was checked around 2:15pm to make sure he was not too low before leaving school and they would let his grand dad know and would send me a text. I receive a call EVERY day during the morning and after lunch. Initially this school year we continued with the same schedule until after Christmas break. He still has the morning snack, but he checks his BS in the classroom and he calls me b4 with the BS. If the BS is too low or if it is well above 400, he will report to either Liz or Miss D. Because lunch time is when he has to bolus for BS and carbs, he will log his meal (he has a notebook where he logs the carbs for everything that he eats) and BS before, he will then go to the office or classroom with his team and they make sure his totals are correct and he boluses. That first there was more supervision, but he was only bothered in class (or removed from class) maybe 3 times, and more if he alarmed for lows or highs. This year is a little better he does his snack check himself with his teacher, she will log his BS and if a problem will send him to the team, other than that lunch is the only time he has to be removed from class. His is still in the honeymoon phase of diabetes, but we are much more comfortable now.
Also, in our plan, my endo indicated that adjustments can be made by mom if I deem it. Because there was a point early on when one of the teacher’s did not feel comfortable about something I told her and contacted the School Nurse who was at another school that day, a big mess ensued. I was ready to take him out then because I concerned that she was not competent enough, but we spoke and I had his endo to contact the school nurse who let him know that I am very competent of the things that we are doing with his diabetes and that he is comfortable with my decisioning because he knows that if I am not sure or have questions that I am going to contact the office no matter what.
It is almost harassment what the nurse is doing to your daughter. I am sure that this behavior only heightens your daughter’s anxiety which will affect her BSs. It sounds to me that this nurse is not comfortable in her position or skills. I would suggest speaking with the Principal/Head Master/HeadMistress about your concerns. This cannot be good for your child’s mental health either. She should not be checking her BSs less than every 2 1/2 hours, probably more ideally every 3 hours. She also must understand that she may alarm w/i an 1 hr after lunch.
I must say that we are very Blessed to have the team of people that we have helping with my son. We had a few hiccups early on, but it is so much better now. He is now in the 4th grade. I have no idea what I am going to do when he goes to middle school.
I pray that things will get better for you and child. But, I would seriously have a meeting with Administration and the nurse.