before you criticise
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What’s the story, @jbowler?!
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Preach @jbowler !
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People just don’t understand. I’ve had people actually ask me if @Liam-M got diabetes because he “ate too much sugar.” He wasn’t even eating table foods when he was diagnosed…still breast feeding. People who don’t have anyone in their family with diabetes just have no clue what the disease is. I was just like them, tbh!!
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I meant to post it on TUD but my BG was low and my eyesight is not that great so F vs T? Nevertheless the context was that my BG was 62 according to AndroidAPS and heading downward according to my body so I went out, a man drawn to the 'fridge as a crow is drawn to rotting meat, and found the several bowls of fruit that my wife had prepared and keeps in the 'fridge for this very purpose then chowed down.
At this point I get a worrisome look from my wife and the statement, “You should do 20.” (I.e. g of carbs) and then a conversation ensues (remember I’m about 50mg/dL at this point.) This conversation extends to what I regarded as a criticism of my I/C ratio, hence my posts.
I suspect I’m preaching to the choir, which is why I meant to put it on TUD, but at 50mg/dL what do you expect?
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But there is rule #2…
Rule #2:
Spouses are exempt from the rules.
Seriously, of all the people in the world, my wife is pretty much the only one I would allow to make comments or offer me any BG advice. She’s earned the right by injecting me with glucagon on many occasions!
Everyone else can just keep their mouth shut. 
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@Eric this assumes that when one is having a low, one doesn’t act like a flaming butthead and reject said Spouse’s comments/suggestions or help summarily out of hand because one is half out of their mind and halfway down the primal self survival at all costs road.
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Actually the thing that irritates me more is when I am NOT low, and we are arguing, and she asks “Are you low?”
No, I am not low! I am mad for this particular thing we are arguing about!
In a way, it’s somewhat of a compliment. She assumes that if I am angry, it must be because I am low.
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Interesting how low or high most everything becomes annoying…lol (could you stop breathing… 
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In general, I only cuss on 2 occasions. When I spill something, and when I have high BG.
For the most part, I don’t cuss when I am low. But when I am high, I am mad about it. And I will often blurt out a word.
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I am seriously such an a-hole when I’m low (and when I’m high) (and, if I’m being honest, sometimes when I’m in range…). But sometimes I can blame my blood sugar and get a little compassion from my family! (I’m usually quite even-keeled and kind!) (I know that @Eric is, too!)
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Right. But I can rant and that is important: my wife (or husband) can do things to me that I would not ever permit (if I could help it) anyone else to do. When other people do those things it is not simply hurtful is it?
So there is another point too; marriage is not a permission to abuse, obviously. What counts every time, inside and outside marriage, is consent. Making general comments about what a spouse may or may not do misses my point: I did consent, but sometimes I need to rant. Other T1Ds might not consent; it’s a negotiation and that negotiation is necessary even if it is only implied.
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Yeah. That used to happen in our relationship but then Andy learned me (just I as learned Andy): Now she knows that if I’m acting like that I’m high, not low. When I’m low I just stagger around eating the fruit. Andy knew I was low before the debate about my IC (CI?) ratio started, I think, I was low and it’s difficult to remember.
In my relationship it does help that I’ve installed NightScout on her 'phone. So I can always say, very annoyingly, did you check your 'phone? I’m not sure what happened to the alerts, they were on; Andy got an alert once in Taiwan when I went low in the US maybe I cancelled them because of that…
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25 years as a diabetic and 34 in our relationship and that still hasn’t happened…still learning…
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If I know why Andy reacts the way she does after it happens then I understand. I’ve not learned to predict her and I hope I never will, then it would be boring. Understanding is enough, predicting the future, why would anyone want to do that?
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