This is such a difficult question, and one I ask myself every few days.
My son is 13, and does not wake up for alarms at all. He sleeps through everything, loud sounds, lights…
But he also has many puberty peaks in the evening, pretty much every night. If he had to wake up to treat every peak or low, he would be up every night, most of the time until at least 2 am. This is not sustainable for us.
I can only speak for us. I hope that his puberty peaks will reduce in frequency sometime in the next 2-3 years. When that happens, we would like him to take on night duty, at which time I hope he will be waking up to alarms. I would like this time to be at least 2 years before college, so that he has a couple of years of night duty before he is on his own.
If the frequency of his night BG management challenges does not go down drastically within 2-3 years, I think he still will need to take charge of at least a portion of his nights when he gets to be 15 or 16, because, otherwise, I feel he will not be ready for college. But I am concerned of what this will mean for his sleep.
So I suppose that I am saying 15-16 is the age where I think it is necessary for my son to take on most nights, in my opinion today.
The reason why I’d rather he did not do it today is because of the immense impact this would have on his sleep. And I really don’t think he can wake up to alarms right now. It sometimes takes me 5 minutes to wake him up at night.
College is a big bugaboo for us. It is what worries me most when I think of the future. I think that, if he survives college, he will make it through young adulthood. But I see college as a high risk. So getting him trained and ready for college is the most important thing we can do, imho.
I think it is wonderful that your son was mature enough to do this at age 13!!! I hope it does not mean that he has to stay up as mine would have to. But I figure that, if that were the case, you would find a way to alleviate his burden.