There are many people here (including our son, Liam) who definitely are not sugar surfers or flatliners although we are active in his care and are concerned about his health and welfare both now and in the future. This site was designed to not give anyone a pity party - diabetes sucks. We get it. We take another stance - it sucks BUT you can still do whatever you want, live an unlimited lifestyle and help others as part of your own journey.
There are flatliners here, for sure, but there are also “roller coaster” club members, including our son (going on 4 yo, diagnosed at 2 yo.) Everyone has their own story, but our goal is to take you in whatever condition you are in today and mold you into the kind of diabetic YOU want to be. Want to learn how to manage your diabetes while swimming? Ask @daisymae - who came here with the main concern of being unable to control her BG’s while swimming. Want to walk, run, or do yoga and control? Want to enjoy that Milkshake or banana split but not sure how to make it work? Want to move technologies from one pump to another, one platform to another, etc.,? Want to learn more about xDrip and perhaps transition into using that even though it means you may have to ditch your receiver?
FUD isn’t any one thing. There isn’t one “type” of person here. We are all different, with different circumstances, life’s goals, problems (medical problems, financial problems, healthcare problems, etc., etc.) But one thing we are not is some holier than thou forum where only the “elite diabetics” hang out. We are here in whatever stage we show up in and we help each other grow into the kinds of diabetics we want to be. We help each other reach our goals. We listen during those venting days and console one another.
But again, we don’t pity one another…enough forums do that and offer no practical, helpful advise. We may provide a small dose of pity, but you better believe that this will be accompanied with a huge dose of “how can we help you improve your situation?”
Please see the linked posts I included in my response and check out all the threads we’ve started thus far. I think you’ll find a LOT of “passing it on” to people in all stages of their diabetic journeys. I could point to hundreds, but I’ll leave that exploration for you. 
We are a newer forum, but we are growing quickly BECAUSE we are offer a laid back atmosphere full of really intelligent people who are here for each other and who really care about taking an active role in their diabetes management (or their kids, if they are caregivers as in my case.). We aren’t here for any one crowd and I hope as you continue perusing these threads you’ll see ample examples of that.
Our main goal is to push the point that we can all be unlimited despite diabetes. We don’t let it hold us back. We work through our problems when we have them – we don’t sit around and cry ourselves to sleep. We pick ourselves up by the bootstraps when we don’t succeed in some experiment, or achieve some goal, or we have an especially bad day of lows or high sugars and we push forward. Most importantly we LEARN and then we SHARE with everyone else here so that they can perhaps learn from the mistakes that we make.
Hope you have time to peruse these forums fully so that you can find the many examples of people helping people. Of real people coming here WITHOUT tight control and LEARNING how to get tight control IF that’s what their goal is. Of real people coming here with the sole purpose of fixing SOMETHING about their diabetes management and getting that help in short order.