# The feeling inside a well-controlled child with diabetes **URL:** \ **Category:** Emotional Health\ **Created:** [May 19, 2017, 5:32pm UTC](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/t/the-feeling-inside-a-well-controlled-child-with-diabetes/975 "2017-05-19T17:32:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Michel](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/forum.fudiabetes.org/michel/32/387_2.png) [@Michel](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/u/Michel)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2017, 5:32pm UTC](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/t/the-feeling-inside-a-well-controlled-child-with-diabetes/975/1 "2017-05-19T17:32:41Z")
> **[Bereavement without a death](https://www.bmj.com/content/357/bmj.j2012)** > > When I was a kid I wanted to be the kind of person who can crash land in the desert and walk for days to safety; the loyal adventurer who won’t give up searching the mountains for a friend even when everyone else is exhausted. Then I got a diagnosis... > I still have days when having diabetes makes me angry and sad and days where I’m just enormously tired of this never ending disease. But 25 years on, I’m no longer in denial and I’ve accepted who I am. It’s even possible to move from grief to pride—those with type 1 diabetes are among the hardest working people you’ll ever meet. I’m proud of us. This, I am afraid, is a bit of a tearjerker for the parent of a child with diabetes, particularly if you read the footnote about the author: > **[Rosamund Snow](https://www.bmj.com/content/346/bmj.j850)** > > Researcher and campaigner for patients’ involvement in healthcare > > > > On her first day as The BMJ ’s patient editor in 2014, Rosamund Snow disclosed that a favourite pastime of hers was watching classic episodes of Coronation Street . Early storylines... > Rosamund Snow (b 1971; PhD, MReS), died by suicide on 2 February 2017 ---
**Author:** ![ClaudnDaye](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/forum.fudiabetes.org/claudndaye/32/5_2.png) [@ClaudnDaye](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/u/ClaudnDaye)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2017, 5:53pm UTC](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/t/the-feeling-inside-a-well-controlled-child-with-diabetes/975/2 "2017-05-19T17:53:46Z")
😢 I fear this every day. The only thing I feel that we can do for Liam is TRY to teach him 1/2 glass FULL instead of 1/2 glass EMPTY; teach him coping methods; teach him treatment methods (including recognizing instinct and utilizing this as @Eric so eloquently wrote about); teach him to DON’T PITY HIMSELF…there is no time or room to pity ones self. We ALL have struggles and those struggles aren’t what define us; rather, how you DEAL with those struggles is what defines you. I am sorry to hear this ladies story, but reading the article made me feel like “a Debbie Downer”…I don’t want Liam to THINK like this…although I recognize I may have no choice since I don’t know the TRUE struggles of Diabetics. ---
**Author:** ![docslotnick](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/forum.fudiabetes.org/docslotnick/32/75_2.png) [@docslotnick](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/u/docslotnick)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2017, 8:23pm UTC](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/t/the-feeling-inside-a-well-controlled-child-with-diabetes/975/3 "2017-05-19T20:23:33Z")
> [@ClaudnDaye](#): > > I recognize I may have no choice since I don’t know the TRUE struggles of Diabetics. @ClaudnDaye Harold, I DO know the true struggles of diabetics, and you have captured it perfectly. I have NEVER thought of myself as being sick because I never have been sick. I have sympathy for people who are ill, but I absolutely want no sympathy from anyone because I have a medical condition. I’ve said it before that a great endocrinologist told me that “the disease is not diabetes, the disease is high blood sugar”. This is of the essence. If I maintain good control I know that I am just like anyone else. If I know how to control this beast, there is nothing I have to give up. Most of all, I know if I feel sorry for myself it means that I have given up, and there is no way I’ll ever give up. ---
**Author:** ![Chris](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/forum.fudiabetes.org/chris/32/382_2.png) [@Chris](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/u/Chris)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2017, 8:36pm UTC](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/t/the-feeling-inside-a-well-controlled-child-with-diabetes/975/4 "2017-05-19T20:36:39Z")
With reported rates of depression symptoms in T1 teenagers somewhere between 12 - 20%, it is relevant that some of our members will be dealing with this no matter how hard we work to empower them. The human mind is a wonderful thing, but can be a two edged sword in life. It can be for you, neutral, or against you. The combination of high blood sugar that needs to be treated often and depression is a rough combination. I can only hope that if my son has that combination he seeks treatment from professionals prior to getting suicidal. ---
**Author:** ![docslotnick](https://yyz2.discourse-cdn.com/flex030/user_avatar/forum.fudiabetes.org/docslotnick/32/75_2.png) [@docslotnick](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/u/docslotnick)\ **Post date:** [May 19, 2017, 8:57pm UTC](https://forum.fudiabetes.org/t/the-feeling-inside-a-well-controlled-child-with-diabetes/975/5 "2017-05-19T20:57:33Z")
@Michel Although it is very sad that someone who is diabetic committed suicide, I have the feeling that she did not commit suicide _because_ of diabetes. Not having diabetes does not grant immunity from depression or mental illness. RIP Rosamund